Thank You

There is a story that pops up on face book lately about a boy named Virgil who rescued seventeen of his neighbors during hurricane Harvey. The thirteen year old used an air mattress to help as many of his neighbors as he could while the flood waters rose in his community. In recognition of his bravery, his high school planned a standing ovation for him. https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=7y8HjalvoaM   In a TED talk, Laura Trice spoke about the...

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Stop “Should-ing” on Yourself and Your Children

We are immersed in a “should-y” time. There are many ways throughout the day that we encounter our own uncertainty. Am I “adulting” right? Am I where I “should” be in my career, my life, my education? Add to this our current cultural relationship with electronics and the internet and the way that having access to all sorts of stress invoking information about what other people are doing with their days and their lives and their...

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Finding Alone Time in the Early Parenting Years

Time alone is so important. It doesn’t have to have a specific purpose. Its value is in the dedication you show in defining and taking it. Once you become a parent, it can feel as if you are not entitled to alone time and wanting it means you are unfit for not desiring to spend all your minutes with your progeny.   This is a horrible falsehood.   It is important for you to take time for yourself, AND it is important for your child to...

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Post -Partum Depression and Paternal Post- Natal Depression: The Experience is Real and You Are Not Alone

A baby’s prerogative, particularly in the first two to three years, is to be the center of your attention and to have their mind read. Most communication between you and baby will be unconscious. How you will know if she is hungry, tired, wet, uncomfortable, is by the silent signals she sends. In terms of developmental psychology, it is the parent’s job to take in the baby’s communication, make sense of it and present it back to baby in a...

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Biting

Now that we’re a few months into the school year, you’ve likely survived your separation and are settling into a routine of drop-off, pick-up, rinse and repeat. All is moving smoothly and easily until you get the dreaded call from your ECC teacher that your precious bundle of cuddles and giggles has bit or been bitten by a friend. It can be horrifying to receive that call. It can leave you feeling embarrassed, worried and not sure of what to...

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Me, Too… Enough

This blog post might be an exercise in optimism. A hope that maybe… Maybe, with the right attunement and awareness we can raise a generation of humans who are more respectful of themselves and one another than we currently are. Maybe. I imagine the beginning of such a future includes, requires even, many changes in our unconscious, reflexive interactions with children. More on that, later. First, lets look at how we can consciously approach...

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