Be the Change…

This will be short and sweet.   You are your child’s first and most important role model, and, unfortunately, they are always watching. That means that how you interact with other people, with your partner, with yourself, is happening in front of an audience.   When you yell at other drivers in traffic. When you speak unkindly or dismissively to anyone in a service position. When you speak unkindly about yourself. When you fight in...

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MLK Day – Bringing Light and Love Into Our Homes

It’s 2018.   A new year brings new hope and new goals for how we plan to treat ourselves, our friends, and our world. It also can, to our dismay, be a continuation of the same old frustrations and disappointments. Often it can seem much easier to settle into the old patterns of stress and agitation that existed prior to the ball drop, than it is to make changes that we may sincerely want to make.   This week I heard two stories that...

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Holiday Stress

It’s the holidays and for most of us that means that our stress level is high and our flexibility and resiliency level is low. It can be difficult to manage the repressed childhood traumas that come up when faced with buying gifts or spending an extended amount of time with family that we have built a finely tuned defense system against.   If family doesn’t stress you out then the overspending, or diet management in the presence of...

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Chanukah, Oh Chanukah

When I was a kid I lived in primarily non-Jewish communities. I was the only, or one of a small handful of Jewish kids at any school I attended. In fact, I was the only member of my college Hillel. Sister Mary and I had lunch once a month after my interpretive movement class. I have always identified strongly with my Jewishness. I loved telling the stories of the holidays, introducing my friends to fun new foods, and feeling unique amongst my...

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A Great Miracle

It’s the holiday season, a time of stress and busy-ness, and a time of fun and family. During Chanukah we play a game with a dreidel. On the dreidel are four Hebrew letters. In the US these letters represent the words A Great Miracle Happened There. In Israel, the letters represent the words A Great Miracle Happened Here. I always loved that fact as a kid. It reminded me that the holiday was about something bigger than latkes and doughnuts and...

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Letting go

Pearl and Dave me when they were in their twenties. They were both professionals and upwardly mobile in their careers. They dated for three years before getting engaged and then took another three years to plan their “perfect” wedding. They spent several years establishing their home and finances, adopted a beautiful Burmese mountain dog named (lovable) Lulu, and ran the LA Marathon together. When they hit their mid-thirties, they decided...

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