Spirituality, Your Child, and You

This is one of my favorite times of year. Autumn brings the beginning of school, for which I was always excited, a change in wardrobe, even for us west coasters, and Rosh Hashanah. I have always loved this time of year as a Jewish person, with its reminder to look inward, think reflectively about your actions and relationships and imagine how you would like to move forward. It’s a giant pause button. For me as a child it meant a day off from...

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Grown Up, Part Three

OK, here are a few concrete ideas about how to integrate structure and boundaries into your home without losing the love and fun and softness that is also important. These are just some ideas formed as examples. Your real life is going to look different. As I strive to do with all of my blog posts, let me say that you are the expert on your life and your children. I am hoping to provide some different perspectives and maybe some workable ideas...

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Grown Up, Part Two

Many of us have things that we might do differently than our parents or guardians when raising our own children. In recent years I’ve seen an increase in parents uncertainty with how to encourage optimal growth and exploration in children while still instilling healthy boundaries and safety. I think the reasons for this are myriad.   First, we live in a time culturally in which there is a dizzying amount of input to sift through. There...

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Parents, It’s OK to be the Grown-Up

There is a title used in media these days. People are talking about the “grown-ups” in the room. They are calling on the grown ups to make the sober, thoughtful decisions of leadership. They are calling on the grown ups to mediate and show compassion. It is a title which has special significance in the news lately, and it’s also a great lead in to a discussion about the importance of being a grown up, particularly in how you relate to your...

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Lessons Learned During the Eclipse

I got my hands on a pair of glasses and ventured outside yesterday to watch the solar eclipse. I was at work, in the courtyard of my building, and I was surprisingly alone in the viewing. I say surprising, because I thought that many people would be at least marginally curious and we would gather together, like during a fire alarm or other event that gets people out of their offices. I was disappointed to be alone, but that time allowed me to be...

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Pro-Social Behavior, Costco, and Charlottesville

I was in Costco the other day, a place where manners and courtesy seem to stay in the parking lot. I was concentrating on finding my “zen” as carts bumped into me, people hung out in the middle of aisles not moving and children ran suicide missions in front of my cart to get to sample stations. I focused on my list, as my patience dwindled and I felt a primal scream emerging from the depths of my soul. It’s a unique place, Costco. It seems...

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