Play Please

Have you played today? Even if you sat on the floor and “played’ with your child, was it play for you? Or were you thinking about the incomplete task list and chores that needed to be attended to?   Play is so important. For a developing person, for an adult person, play is so important.   Play is how we communicate and engage with our children in early childhood. Play is how they will learn about themselves and their internal...

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“Mommy Brain”: The Miracle and the Nuisance

I speak to so many parents about “loving the child they have, knowing the child they have.” Today, I want to take a minute and turn that attention to the mommies. There is so much cultural pressure and expectation of what moms “should” look like, how they “should” behave, what they “should” feel about pregnancy and new motherhood…   It’s too much!   Stop “should-ing” on mothers and motherhood.   And, moms,...

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Flower Children

There is a way of thinking about people and personalities and resilience that has been the focus of some research lately. I will attach the articles to the end of this post so you can read more if you’re interested. The theory is that many children are like dandelions that can grow through a crack in the cement. They are resilient and will thrive in most any environment they are put in. It’s a way to explain the people you come across in...

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Harness that Stress

Stress impacts everything we do. We carry the effects of stress physically, and it makes it difficult for us to be present in the moment. When you have children in your life that can impact all of your interactions with them. Young children, especially, require reflective, attuned connections with their adults. Without this focused attention, they can suffer from lowered self esteem and confidence, and it can even effect early brain development....

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Happy Birthday Israel!

Sarah was unable to conceive. She, devastated, told her husband Abraham that he should have a baby with their servant, Hagar. Hagar gave birth to a healthy boy that was named Ishmael. Sarah and Hagar had a rough relationship due to the status Hagar now held as bearer of Abraham’s only son. They fought. Sarah was distraught and jealous and angry. Finally, a miracle. Sarah became pregnant. Isaac was born, a second healthy son to Abraham. Sarah,...

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On Healing From Trauma

I write this on Yom Hashoah, the day of remembrance of the Holocaust. When I was a child and in Sunday School, we watched videos and looked at books with the all too familiar figures of skeletal humans in horrible conditions and we were taught to never forget. I certainly will never forget those images or how it felt to think about such hopelessness as an 8, 9 or 10 year old. I’m not sure that the way we were taught about the Holocaust was...

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