OY!

The Bachelor season 22 came to an end this past Tuesday night. It was a shocking and disappointing end, that reverberated in communities that surprised me. There is something about the way this bachelor, Arie Luyendyk, Jr., treated the two women that he had narrowed his choice down to, and how the production as a whole has treated this idea of meeting a life partner, that has deeply disturbed many of us, even people who are not reality TV...

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Purim- A Teachable Moment

Purim is a holiday filled with parties and costumes and, for many adults, memories of Purim carnival goldfish. It can be a difficult holiday to make sense of for children and families. One of the aspects of the story that I feel is the most tenable is that of courage and advocacy. Esther initially hides her Jewishness, but when faced with the destruction of her people, she reveals it and Haman is stopped.   It’s an especially prescient...

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Nurturing Your Partnership

Children are stressful. Having children and expanding your family can add a lot of magic and wonder to your life, but, let’s be real: it also adds stress to your life and can shake an otherwise strong partnership.   It’s important to nurture your relationship with your partner and, when there is conflict, it’s important to address it immediately. It’s also important to learn how to “non-violently” address conflict, so that you...

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Wrap ‘Em Up

I work in both a clinical setting and in an Early Childhood Center. In my work in the ECC I am privileged to see many families grow and change through their years in a contained and nurturing environment. The development that occurs in a nursery school setting for children and families is profound.   What I want to address in this week’s blog is the issue of diagnosis and what that means in childhood. While it is not productive to compare...

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Watch, Wait, and Wonder…

This week in my parenting classes I have had three simple words written on the board.   Watch, wait, and wonder.   Inspired by an intervention style started by Mirek Lojkasek, Ph.D. and Elisabeth Muir, Watch, Wait and Wonder is a child- led psychotherapeutic approach that specifically and directly uses the infant’s spontaneous activity in a free play format to enhance maternal sensitivity and responsiveness, the child’s sense of...

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Helping Your Child Respond Empathically When a Friend Has Challenging Behaviors

This topic has come up in conversation a few times over the past few weeks, and I think it’s an incredibly important pro-social skill. What do you tell your child when they come home and report that a friend has been acting aggressively? How do you speak about challenging behaviors with your child? How do you help them to navigate this social obstacle course and how can you do it while also instilling an empathic attitude? Finally, how can...

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